Woman's Girls' Night Turns Unexpected with New Boyfriend's Arrival

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Feb 18, 2026

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Being excited about a new relationship is completely normal, but it’s also important to maintain balance and respect boundaries. This story revolves around a woman who finds herself in a difficult situation with her friend, who has recently started dating someone and now wants the boyfriend included in all their social plans.

The woman, referred to as “F22,” is part of a close-knit group of friends that includes ZA (F23) and MM (F23). They’ve known each other for years, having attended an all-girls school together, which has helped form a strong, girls-only bond. Recently, ZA began dating AP (M21), and since then, ZA has been trying to involve him in their usual activities.

The group had planned a girls’ night at F22’s place, and she made it clear in the group chat that it was going to be just the three of them. ZA initially agreed, but an hour before the event, she messaged saying that AP was already with her and asked if he could join. F22 politely declined, explaining that it wasn’t personal, but they wanted a night for themselves and that it was rare to have such time without any men involved.

ZA took the refusal as a personal slight and accused F22 of being rude for excluding AP, even though they were in a relationship. She claimed that AP felt unwelcome, and F22 reminded her that not every gathering needed to include her boyfriend. She emphasized that it’s natural to have separate spaces and times for different groups of people.

In response, ZA decided not to come at all. Later, she messaged F22, accusing her of being unfair and stating that AP is now part of her life. She also suggested that F22 was acting like ZA was still in high school. Now, ZA is wondering if she should apologize for her behavior, while MM supports F22’s decision. However, ZA has been distant ever since.

F22 feels that it’s reasonable to want time with just her friends, especially given the history of their friendship. But she’s now questioning whether she was too harsh or hurtful.

This situation sparked a lot of discussion on Reddit, where users weighed in with their opinions. Here are some of the key points from the conversation:

Many users believed that it’s okay for ZA to have a separate space with her boyfriend. They argued that relationships don’t require constant inclusion in every social activity.
Some users pointed out that ZA might be isolating herself and her partner by trying to involve him in every aspect of her life.
Others said that girls’ nights should remain girls’ nights, and that it’s perfectly normal to have separate time with different groups of people.
A few users suggested that ZA and AP could plan something together another time, rather than expecting to be included in every gathering.

While it’s understandable that ZA wants to include her boyfriend in her life, it’s also important for her to respect the boundaries of her friendships. Relationships can bring new dynamics into existing groups, but it doesn’t mean that the old ones need to disappear.

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